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Friday, September 7, 2012

Part of God's Plan

Not too long ago, I was reading one of my all time favorite blog's by Kelle Hampton, and she had a post from a woman who had emailed her about an accident she was in that left her paralized from the waist down. She had such an interesting view point on what we all hear so often "It's all part of God's plan". For those of you who don't know my mother, I grew up hearing this :)

"Some people like to tell me that my injury, my paralysis, my illness, they are all a part of a plan, particularly God's plan. That everything in my life has a reason and only He knows why. Well, I tend to find that a ridiculous thing to say. I find it very difficult to believe that hurt, pain, rape, murder, disability, war, and many other awful things are all a part of a plan. As far as I know and understand, God is love. Whenever love is present, so is God. God is inside of us all. When our hearts expand and more love blossoms, we are finding and experiencing God. When something tragic happens instead of being a part of a master plan, I believe it is just one more way we can expand our hearts. We are all a part of the human experience and with this experience comes many, many things we can not control...some good and some bad. Instead of analyzing them and figuring out why they occur, we would be much better off expanding our hearts and realizing all of the other people who share similar circumstances. We would be better off being a little bit easier on people we are frustrated with because who knows what he or she is going through or has been through. We must become more gentle and less tough. You have mastered this idea of opening your heart and sharing love."

If you take anything from this post, I hope you remember each time something bad happens that it is molding you and shaping you into a better and stronger person. I recently found a book in my ottoman coffee table that my mom gave to Blair for Christmas. I hardly even remember him getting it, but on the inside there was a note from her stating, Blair and Elise: I think you would both enjoy this book... So I gave it a shot. The name of it is "The Present", and it's about living in the present, and concetrating on the gift you have been given: the present. Not worrying about things that may have happened in the past, and not worrying about what the future may hold. And I think these things go hand in hand. The book advises that when something tragic happens, find a way to look at what is "right now" in the situation. Right now as in, the present, and right now as in what positive thing can come out of what has just happened. Live life in the present, and don't waste any time because every minute we have here, and every minute we have with our childrent is precious. I find myself rolling my eyes because Hunter wants me ALL the time. He's in a stage where if he's tired or cranky, or just around strangers, he wants to climb my skin. I used to get so frustrated with him, and still do sometimes I will admit. But for the most part, I just mentally prepare myself that when I get home, it's me and him until he goes to bed. Every other night we takes turns, and Blair feeds and bathes him. But when he's cranky, he wants me. And me it is. I've learned many new crockpot recipes due to this stage of his life, and that's one positive thing that has come from the situation! Less time cooking at night and more time cuddling. There are still the occasional eye rolls, and a couple of times where I just leave the room completely because when I'm not in his line of vision, he is perfectly fine with his daddy time.

And Blair, for a great example, lost his father at such a young age. And I don't think he would be the man he is today if he had not lived through such a tragic loss. I don't think he would have the fatherly qualities and all the love in his heart that he does for Hunter, if it hadn't been for what he went through when losing his dad. He doesn't take the time he has with Hunter for granted, he takes it and runs with it. And I love watching their relationship unfold and grow day by day.

It's redundant to some people, but it's true..... this is all part of God's master plan. And it's true, it's all happening for a reason.


  1. I love this post! Because you will never know how strong you are until you no other choice. As much as i look at other people who's life circustances seem to be a little easier than mine i never wish to change the path i have been on. Because if it were different, if it had been "easy" Would I have the life I have now? A life I can't imagine any differently?

    P.s. Ilove Kelle Hampton's blog! I just finished her book. I kind of really want to be her friend and don't think I haven't thought about trying to find while she is in Dallas next month. :-)

  2. P.p.s. this is dinger. Never do I comment n a blog and completely forgot about this silly screen name my sister made me years ago.

  3. Elise, u definitely spoke to me in this blog! My brother was a paraplegic and is now deceased and I have been really lonesome this week. I would love to read that book by Kellie Hampton. What is thetitle? I have had a lot of tragedy in my life and I would not be the person I am today without those experiences. I often find myself when things are going good, wondering when the floor will come out from under me. I did learn though that God has a plan and all we have to do is "let go & let God" and one day He will reveal to us in some way the purpose of the path He shows us. I too find myself getting frustrated with Saul when ALL he wants is me. Thanks for putting into perspective the fact that I need to cherish those moments and nit feel angry about it. God is great! I imagine that He is proud of the woman you are and He will give you all the tools you need on your journey is this life! You "rock" Elise!